Celebrating Life as a Stay at Home Wife
Thanks for the encouragement! I do hear this question a lot. I do the exact things you mentioned and it keeps me quite busy! As you said too, I do get to enjoy down time. It's wonderful!
I don't agree that people are inherently jealous of my downtime. Most people don't know I have as much downtime as I do. Being chronically ill, the ability to take things slowly or on a different schedule than others allows me to focus on my healing. Likewise, I also have several hours a day to focus on my writing and becoming an author. When people ask me what I do all day, I usually rattle off a series of events that make it sound like I am busy from start to finish. Even if that event doesn't take me long, the list makes others think I am racing around all day every day. But they don't ask out of jealousy for my downtime. They tend to ask such questions of me because why else would an otherwise perfectly healthy looking woman CHOOSE to stay home with no kids? It's almost an affront to this American idea that every able bodied person should be working and since I do not LOOK sick, I should be working too because staying home and caring for the energy in my home is not a good way to spend time. Once I explain that I am a writer, or if that person finds out that I am chronically ill, I suddenly get a free pass on staying home full time.But this is just my experience.
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You have many good points.I always feel like people overvalue their own achievements.I mean no one is going to care in 100 years that you werea career woman and an HR manager :-DAt that point, no one will care at all what you did with your life.
Mrs. K,So true! I think when anyone looks back on their life, it would be nice to think about the times they had with family and friends above all :)QH
Hello Quaint Housewife,Thank you for visiting my blog and leaving such a lovely comment. My time is short today as I'm about to head down to the barn with Mr.B and the littles to work our goat herd, but I look forward to returning soon. It looks as if you have several posts I would enjoy.Blessings,Mrs.B
Thanks, Mrs. B!
The experience Rebelprofiler relates I believe says a great deal about modern society and the view of homemakers (especially those of us without children). Why should any homemaker need to qualify choosing homemaking over a career by (1) having to rattle off a long list of to-do's in order to sound as busy as the many harried career women she meets, (2) detailing the in-home business she manages to bring in the $$$ just as if she were any other working woman, (3) having to battle a serious illness? And Rebelprofiler, I do pray you God gives you complete healing.I do feel some women (certainly not all) are envious of my ability to stay at home. Still, the choice my husband and I made to forgo the second income leaves us often feeling envious of the financial freedom many of our friends enjoy. Either lifestyle has its pros and cons. I thought the sexual revolution was supposed to liberate women to choose a path in life, as men do. Instead it seems that the pendulum has swung entirely the other direction. Some of us now need liberation from careers!
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