Saturday, January 4, 2014

Welcome to My Blog!

As a happy housewife without kids, I hope to reach out to other women who have a similar lifestyle, as well as women who are simply interested in domesticity overall. I give and take advice, offer product reviews on goods that are useful in the domestic sphere, and also write the occasional musing about life.

Let me introduce myself. I am a newlywed, who got married in June of 2013. My husband allows me to stay home and take care of cooking, cleaning, decorating, our three cats, and all the other wonderful duties that go along with being a housewife. I say "wonderful duties" mostly without a smirk because I am simply in love with domesticity.


I did have a paid career as a technical writer in the big city for about ten years before I became a housewife. But the paycheck simply did not compare to the thrill of being able to stay at home and do traditional homemaking. I do handle the budgeting in the house, though, so his paycheck is my paycheck too!

I was asked by others in the past whether I am Mormon or not, because many Mormon women are housewives, but I always must say that I am not. I am an old-fashioned mainline Protestant. I welcome all of you to join me on my homemaking journey and hopefully you will share your stories too.

I have a YouTube channel, a Facebook page, and a Pinterest page. Please join me on all three!

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi,

I stumbled onto your blog for the first time today. Although my situation is a little different I can relate. I currently work 2 days a week as a nurse but spend the rest of my time taking care of home and husband. I am young and also have no children (yet). My husband has been encouraging me in recent months to give up work all together and just do the things I enjoy. My biggest fear in this would be the judgement of others and also establishing a new network of friends outside of work who can relate to my lifestyle. I so look forward to hearing more about your journey.

Quaint Housewife said...

Hi there!

Thank you for taking the time to write about your life here. It sounds like you might be joining the housewife club soon, and that you also have a very supportive husband.

I know about the fear you speak of, and I think it can paralyze us, thinking we might not fit in or be criticized. Rest assured, there are a lot of housewives out there, with and without children, so you will not be alone. It's funny how other people try to make it their business in judging how a married couple decides to live their life. That is between you and your husband only. You might hear people crowing about your occupational change, but pay them no mind.

You can roll your eyes thinking about them while you prepare gourmet meals, decorate your home, and engage in your hobbies. You just go ahead and enjoy your life! Welcome and I hope to engage with you again!

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Quaint Housewife said...

Hi Viji,

So happy to see you made this change. I am glad you liked the article, and I hope you like reading the blog too.

This was the best change I ever made and I think you will see it is too. Enjoy your life at home :)

Anonymous said...

I asked my then fiance if I could stop working and he thought about it and said yes after half an hour. :-) I quit the next Friday! I have never felt the stress and tension since. I loved finding this blog. Helps me get my thoughts in order for when idiots ask me why I'm not "working"

- neel

Quaint Housewife said...

Neel. That sounds wonderful. Congrats! The stress does indeed melt away. Cooking, cleaning, and any tasks related to being domestic are all work, but those people will never understand that. Welcome!

Sommer H said...

I stumbled upon your blog today and I am glad to find someone like-minded... being a housewife with no children is quite a unique community to be in these days. The thing I dread most in meeting new people is the old "What do you do/Where do you work?" question. I have yet to answer this question in a way that gets me anything other than blank stares and silence, I actually had one of my husbands uncles say "So you don't make money then?" Ugh!

I pride myself on taking care of my husband, our home, our dogs, growing our fruits and veggies and all the other stuff I do to save us money but it sure is hard to get others to see that I actually do work!

I'm looking forward to reading more of your blog posts in the future :)

Quaint Housewife said...

Sommer,

I love your name. Thanks for being a reader. So nice to meet another stay at home wife. There is so much more to making a life than making money. If you were to work outside the home, one would be taken care of, but the making of a life might suffer. I hope you will keep reading and commenting. Welcome!

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Teri Waldron said...

I love your blog!! I stumbled across your article (I can't remember where that was) when I was searching for other SAHW. I'm so lonely here in Utah. I'm surrounded by housewives, but they are all mothers and quite a few of them can be a little judgey that I'm not a Mormon.

I make some money online so when I get asked the dreaded "what do you do" question I usually answer by saying I'm a housewife, but I work online. I hate to answer this way because it makes me feel ashamed that I stay at home all day, but it's the only way I've found to end the questions that come after you answer that you're a housewife.

I love being a SAHW. I love being free to do whatever I want while also having every opportunity to do nice things for my husband. He rarely has to worry about a thing in his home life. I even help him with his job from time to time (he works in maintenance with a side job as a handyman). It's a great life and I wouldn't want to trade it in for a 9 to 5 ever!

Quaint Housewife said...

Teri,

I am not a Mormon either. Even though you make money online, since you are home, you are still a housewife. I wouldn't feel bad about it, but I know what you mean because so many people think housewives are a thing of the past. Couldn't be further from the truth. Maybe we should just tell people we're trophy wives, then they'll understand. But keeping a home warm, happy, and clean is a busying and heartwarming profession!

Shay Anderson said...

I love your blog! I discovered your lovely writings in the early hours of the morning. Being a SAHW is a dream that my fiance has for me. He is a southern boy and I grew up in California. I have thought about my love's dream for me staying at home, but I feel a little guilty because of my lack of children.

I did attend college and have student loans, so I feel like I have to be responsible for them and not him. He said let him worry about things; however, I know his modest salary may have us until a struggle. I'm torn. It would be wonderful to hang up my hat, move back down south and bake bread and cakes all day. I just feel so guilty because I know with my medical issues children are not coming of my own.

After reading your articles I thought, I would be taking care of my husband and home to the best of my abilities and in the end fullfilling my role as a wife as God entended me to be. Decisions, decisions.

Catherine Walker said...

Dear Shay,

Welcome, and thank you! Do not feel guilty about anything. I too went to college and still have student loans. I filed for a forbearance for the payments for a year when we were first getting situated in our lives (saving up for a home downpayment, etc.).

After a while I was able to incorporate the loan payment into our bills. These days most student loan lenders don't give you trouble when you want to file forbearance. It used to be that you had to be on unemployment or some kind of official, documentable hardship. Not anymore.

You could also get a little part-time job that will cover your student loan and nothing else. You could work somewhere for maybe 10 hours a week (depending on your payment minimums) or something. You might be able to make enough money to even put the rest into a retirement account for yourself.

That will still give you the overwhelming majority of your time to be a housewife. Don't worry. Whatever you have to do!

The great thing about living down south I hear is that the housing is much more affordable than on the east and west coasts.

Keeping your overhead small is the best way to go when one person stays at home. Let me know how your situation progresses!

Catherine